Dear Pregnant young Girl...

I am writing this letter to let you know that people will always talk, never be discouraged by them. I know, at this moment you are looking down at yourself; your self- esteem is very low. You are disappointed, you are even afraid to go to the public places because you think everyone is watching and discussing your behavior. In your mind right now is that you have let your parents and society down. You are full of anger and regret. You are trying so hard to focus on other things but you fail in every attempt.

You feel like you are in a dark world because you are walking around with shame and guilt on your shoulders. Everywhere you go; you cry, apologize but still feel like the world is watching you with eyes full of anger, shame and disappointment.  

I would like to advise you to stop living your life based on society’s expectations. Stop seeing your life through the eyes of the society. It’s about time you start seeing yourself through the eyes of God Lord our savior. You should know that it’s not everyone who would like to see you successful; at this very moment they might be laughing at you and saying nasty stuff about you.

Be still and know that God loves you even now that you are pregnant. Yes, you might be pregnant now but fact remains- He cares about you. All you need to do is to kneel down and tell Him how you feel, ask for forgiveness.

God wants you back; He wants to make you precious again. He is just waiting for you. Now, pick yourself up and run to Him with a big smile.

You’ve got to love Pretoria!!!

At first I never wanted to come to Pretoria. I thought it was dirty with prostitution, high crime rates, drugs & alcohol, etc. Johannesburg and Pretoria used to be my best enemies; the mention of their names was a worse nightmare to me. You just cannot believe when I tell you how in love I am with Pretoria at the moment.

The Central Business District is kind of what I have studied about in geography (settlement geography) in high school. Almost everything is here; the skyscrapers, tar roads in almost every street, glass buildings, and the streets are in gridline form, the list goes on. It is structured nicely and perfectly.
One thing I love the most is the implementation of the free Wi-Fi. Tshwane Free Wi-Fi has made our lives easier. It is increasing our opportunities to find jobs, bursaries, to do our things online; quick and easy. It (City of Tshwane) was recently nominated as the best free Wi-Fi provider.
There are a lot of clubs around the CBD and Sunnyside; you get confused to which one do you want to go to. Almost every street in Sunnyside has a different clubs. It is really accommodating people who like to go out more often. I shouldn’t forget to mention a million of churches around Pta, I get confused myself on Sundays.

Now let’s take a short and quick tour to some various places in Pretoria 
  

CBD

CBD

Union Buildings

Statue of Mr Mandela at Union Buildings

A lose is a big NO NO to Amakhosi this season

Kaizer Chief has made it clear through their consecutive wins that lose is not in their goals for this current season. They have found themselves and realized that they might lose fans and reputation they used to have.
They are the new mtn8 champions whereby they edged Orlando Pirates by 1-0. Tefu Mashamaite scored the winning goal. I am certain that they will go away with Telkom knockout cup. They are very promising and their performance is praised by almost everyone.
They have played 15 games and won all of them. Yesterday, 19-10- 2014, they have set a new PSL record for most wins in a row after beating Ajax Cape Town 1- 0. They are leading on the Absa Premier League.

Where is the truth about this Ebola thing?

Ebola appears to be a serious illness because it can be spread easily. HIV/AIDS is much better compared to it. We have condoms to protect us from getting HIV; we have ARVs to help treat the virus- now I call it a relief. It’s difficult and scary with Ebola because we haven’t discovered any cure or sort of a treatment. In the meanwhile, about 160 people are dying in a day. Ebola outbreak is most popular in 4 countries of West Africa; Sierra Leone, Nigeria, Liberia and Guinea.

Now, what exactly is Ebola?
People are talking! They are giving their own explanation. I've read somewhere online that Ebola is believed to be the results of bush-meat, particularly bats. Yes, we all know that eating bush-meat is popular across Africa but is this true? Some people on social networks assume that this hemorrhagic disease is scientifically engineered, like HIV, Cancer, etc. They say it’s a tactic the West people are using to depopulate black masses.
Basically, most people think that Ebola is a race issue.  Whites are saying this illness is from bush-meat and the Blacks say it’s scientifically engineered.

Life on the City

You should see the hectic traffic in the early hours of the day. People are moving very quickly from the train station, bus stops or taxis to their own destinations. They don’t even care about you; they will just roughly push you from pedestrian road intentionally with their big unmaintained bodies. You should just see those who are coming from the train, you would swear they were chosen; they have the same personality disorder. When you try to talk to them, they just ignore you like they don’t care, like you don’t even exist. These train passengers rarely speak to each other, I wonder why?

Now, listen to the irritating noise coming from the children who are going to school. Some will be filling your ears with their meaningless songs. You will find the other group of these ignorant learners shouting for no reason, laughing like they are in a competition of some sort. Others will be running as if somebody is chasing them. These learners though! Are they not well psychologically? Do they ever think of this distraction they are making in the CBD?

Oh! So now you think it will get better because you are in a taxi or bus? Hahaha...no! It’s only getting worse. You will find three big mommas with their bodies that actually consist of 99.9% of fat in the back seat of the taxi. Once they notice that your body is thin, they now want you to seat with them because they know they are going to seat comfortably and they don’t care if you comfortable or not; it’s just none of their damn business.

I miss this soul!

Photo by: Dieketseng Mothutse
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Photo by: Dieketseng Mothutse
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Marriage saves us from many bad things

Marriage is regarded as a communion bounding two people together. According to Dominik Schoebi, Benjamin R. Karney (Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 2011) marriage is a covenant; not a partnership or a contract. A covenant is forever or until it can no longer be done, “until death do us part”. When you agree to marry someone, it means you are ready to commit yourself and be a wife/husband. This implies that you leave old stuff behind and focus on one partner; you also need to show affection to your partner now and forever more. See, marriage is not as easy as many might think. Schoebi & Karney (Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 2011) say commitment means do what it takes to make the relationship successful. In a long-term relationship, both parties cannot always get their way.

Advantages of marriage

Although this commitment seems to be tough, I say it’s the best choice as well as experience. Your sex life is healthy since you both don’t have to go out dating different people. The highest levels of sexual satisfaction were reported by individuals who were married, monogamous relationships, while those who were single or cohabiting reported slightly lower levels of sexual satisfaction (Journal of Marriage and Family, Vol. 62, No. 4 (November 2000), pp. 999–1017). Also, you help each other financially, meaning that you will not struggle a lot.

Adultery has no chance

When you choose to be married, you avoid adultery as well. This is the reason why I would love to be married in the near future. With my whole heart I Hate with capital H older people (parents) who are fooling around. It’s sad and embarrassing to find out that your parent is dating somebody from your ex’s family. It makes you wanna disappear from this world and come back after a while. However, this whole mess can be prevented from happening by sticking to one partner.

Being a widow does not make you any special

I know some are widowed; it was never their intention to grow old alone. Even though nature (death) took your sweetheart away, it’s still possible to stick to one partner. Okay, I cannot be against dating, but I just feel that it would be better if you go for someone your age. I hate mothers who are into ben10’s, can’t they get appropriate guys? Please!! This ben10 thingy is annoying to the core.

Ladies… Please

Even if you have “baby face” or small body, ladies please go for your peers. You don’t have to know their age; you can tell if someone is your size by listening to how they talk, how they wear and how they do things. Imagine this; mother and her daughter have dated different guys from the same family not knowing? I do not know about you, but it does not sound good to me.

Same applies to men

Same goes to men; it is advisable to choose one person. Since statistics showed that most men are unable to stay without women in their lives, it is wise for a man to remarry if his darling passed on. A father who changes women like underwear is disrespecting and embarrassing his children. They get mocked and teased by their peers in the streets. This negatively affects both their self-esteem and self- concept.

Even the unmarried ones

To the ones marriage was never meant for them, those who say they do not want to be married. It’s fine, you can still be in a relationship with one partner. In this way, you are saving yourself and family the embarrassment.

It is slightly different with young people (Youth)

As for youth, please try and be faithful to your boy/girlfriend. Faithfulness is learned from an early age. Anyway, if you are still a youth, single and have no kids, you can experiment being a Ben10 or having one but don’t make it a habit. Being a youth means you are in a stage where you really have to explore, so that you can speak from experience with your children in your middle or late adulthood.

However, you need to be extra careful since there are various diseases out there and many dangerous things. Take extra care!!!